Monday Morning Motivation-True Friends

Good Monday All!

You were all eating some fantastic dishes last week. The pizza with sautéed Argentinean shrimp, avocado and jalapeños sounds really good. The sliced red potatoes, olive oil, garlic powder, shredded cheese & bacon bits sounds tasty too. The grilled lobster in garlic butter and asparagus made me want to run out and make some of my own. There were also some old standards like baked turkey wings, buffalo wings, healthy desserts and a few vegetable dishes that I have put on my “to try” list. I am impressed! Let me know if you discover some new dishes that you want to share in the future.

Last week, my husband and I went on one of our frequent “Farmers Market” dates. We enjoy grocery shopping together, but we really  love taking trips to the farmers market together. We make sure the boys know that they are not invited by making announcements about where we’re going, usually in a louder than usual volume. We get so excited planning for these moments - as if we are abandoning our sons on purpose. We gather up all of our “Save The Planet” recycled grocery bags and head to our favorite spot in West Hollywood. We get a little too excited when we see our favorite seafood, bread, fruit, vegetable and olive vendors! They already know what we want, and we stock up on our favorite items as if there is a pending food strike. This week, my husband put raw clams on the barbeque grill. Clams are at the top of my favorite seafood list and let’s just say…I ate them!

I digress…True Friends

True friendships are hard to come by these days. I have heard it said that if a person has one true friend in their lifetime, he is the wealthiest person in the world. One of my oldest and closest friends came in town last week and we were able to spend some quality time together. Our relationship is one that has a very interesting story behind it. Suffice it to say that an unpleasant experience brought us together, but if it had not been for that situation, we would have never met. We were sitting down talking one day last week when she looked at me and said, “Do you know that we have known one another for almost two decades?” I thought for a minute and realized she was right. We began to reminisce and swap, “Do you remember that day when…?” stories. We’ve seen one another at some of our best moments and we’ve seen one another at some our worst moments, yet we remain sister-friends. We have learned to depend on each other for emotional support, accountability, prayer, laughter, insight and so many other things.

We’ve had disagreements and misunderstandings, but we are as close today as we’ve ever been. She is one of my true friends. I am grateful that I can say that about many other people outside of my immediate family, and know that these awesome people can truly say the same thing about me. For that I am wealthy and blessed to have true friends. As my friend and I were driving to the airport so that she could catch her flight back home, we just looked at each other and smiled. She looked back at me and said, “I love you.” I looked over at her and said, “I love you, too.” There was nothing more to be said. We sat in silence for a moment that spoke volumes. Our friendship needs no explanation or elaboration - it is what it is. I may not see her or speak to her for a few more weeks, but it is not about quantity, it’s about quality because she is one of my true friends.

As you are reading this, I hope there are a few people that come to your mind whom you consider to be your true friends.  If so, do they know that you see them as a true friend? Have you been a true friend to them? Do they know that you love them? Have you told them lately? If so, you are blessed. If you have answered no to any of these questions, is it because you grew apart with someone? Did you have a falling out? Is there someone you need to forgive? Is there someone who needs your forgiveness? If you have answered yes to any of these questions, are you willing to reach out to make the first move to resolve the issue? Is the relationship worth keeping? No matter what your answers are, I would like to propose a suggestion.

Exercise: How cool would it be to reach out to someone this week whom you consider to be a true friend just to say, “Hi_________, I want you to know that you are a true friend to me and I love you”? That’s it. No need to say anything else. The rest of the conversation can go wherever it needs to go. However, if there is a relationship in need of mending, try a simple, “Hi________, I want you to know that your friendship means a lot to me and…” The rest of the conversation is up to you. These are just suggestions. If you are willing to take on this exercise, let me know how it goes this week, and feel free to tell someone else about the exercise. Either way, let’s reconnect next week.

Have a great week…on purpose!