Monday Morning Motivation - What Positive Lessons Have You Learned From Severed Relationships?

Good Monday All!

Hope you are well! Surprisingly, regarding last week’s topic, there were more responses about getting “back to life” than back to school or work. Fortunately, many of you are expecting great things for the end of the year! Many of you are very excited about the possibilities that await you. I am excited with and for you! Let’s all do the work to make sure that we are in the right place, at the right time, with the right people and with the right frame of mind, so that we can be blessed to be a blessing to others! I have more industry answers for you this week, so keep the comments/questions coming!

I digress…What positive lessons have you learned from Severed Relationships?

Life has a way of teaching us valuable lessons. Some of the lessons are: what not to do, what not to do again, who to associate with, how to behave, when to leave, when to stay, how to stay focused, how to heal, and the like. I believe that we were created to be social, relational and engaging. Many of these social, relational and engaging experiences are long-term. Some are short-term, while others were for a specific purpose and still others seem to be by accident. However, no matter what the encounter was, whom it was with, or how long it lasted, there is something to learn from everyone and every encounter.

I have been having some of the most interesting conversations with random people (young, older, male, female, married, single, professionals, unemployed and students) this summer about such experiences, and every perspective has a thought provoking point of view. However, if I had to give most of the conversations a theme, it would be, “What I learned from my severed relationships.” The highlights for most of the conversations, to me, have been that most people have very insightful resolves about the purpose or reason for the severed relationship or the experience. I was surprised to learn that most were not pointing fingers or posturing themselves to be the victim in the situation. Most of the folks that I have spoken to had positive outlooks on their experience. Only a couple of people were bitter, angry or vengeful, and it seemed that even those few people knew that their current feelings were only temporary. Because there are three sides to every story - your version, their version and the truth as God sees it - every point of view is different and valid to a degree. It was so refreshing to hear that most of these awesome individuals owned their part of the issue and saw the situation for what it was without looking for revenge or wishing that the other person would be hit by a bus or something! I was impressed. They were able to walk away with lessons learned and information to use in the future. Some of their responses started with:

Well, at least I’m not…
Could have been worse if I stayed.
Now, I know not to do that again.
You can’t force people to…
Nobody’s perfect.
I learned how to forgive.
I did the best I could.
I apologized and that’s all I can do at this point.
I’m stronger.
It’s all for the best.
I have to learn to let go.
I wish them well.
I feel better about it now.
I have learned to love while walking away.

As I spoke with many of these awesome folks, I could relate to some of their experiences. While listening to them, I thought about some of my past situations. In doing so, three peaceful words kept replaying in my mind and in my heart. I was pleased to discover that there was no longer any bitterness, animosity, indifference or negative residue, and the words almost felt therapeutic. My mental and emotional resolve was simply, “It’s all good.” That was my resolve. So now I ask you…

Exercise: What positive lessons have you learned from a Severed Relationship? How can you use these lessons to prepare yourself for September 2015 and beyond as you walk into your purpose? You can respond here, on twitter or IG!

General Answers to Industry Questions

Answer#1: When Is Your Book Coming Out?
My Child Is Going to Be Rich and Famous: How to Successfully Balance Family, Parenting and Entertainment is coming out this Fall! I’m so excited for you to get your copy! When I’m able to share specifics with you, I will post them ASAP! I promise! Are you going to help me spread the word when it comes out?

Answer#2: Can you tell me the name of a good agent?
I can, but you have to do the research on your own to find a good one that best fits your child and your desires. Again, Sag/ is a reputable site and will point you in the right direction. Do your own research. You’ll be glad you did.

Answer#3: How does my child get on Sesame Street?
The short answer is, by auditioning with casting or by being in the right place at the right time when their talent scouts are out looking for new kids. Sesame Street is based in New York. When my sons worked with them, we were already living in New York, and they were hiring local kids.  

Have a great week…on purpose!

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